Ok STOP let’s think? What do you believe in? Are your beliefs stopping you from achieving what you want? Are your beliefs real? Are the beliefs you have yours or someone else’s?
These are all very valid questions we need to be asking ourselves on a journey to becoming all we can be. I never really understood the power our beliefs actually have over how we experience our life and the choices we make. Let’s go through these questions and really get the cogs ticking over.
What do you believe in? So this covers your entire belief system which is usually the basis for your decision making. It might be religious, spiritual, you may believe you can never be successful or it could be something as simple as you believe it’s bad to drink before lunch. Either way we have a lot of beliefs that most of the time will be the deciding factor when making a decision. Now this isn’t a bad thing as long as your beliefs are in alignment with your goals and where you are heading. If you believe you are scared of heights, you certainly aren’t going to go skydiving. Therefore if skydiving was your goal, you would need to change your belief system.
Are your beliefs stopping you from achieving what you want? We call these limiting beliefs, because something as simple as a belief could be the only thing actually stopping you. These could be manifested from an experience you have had or from what other people tell you. Don’t be too concerned if you have limiting believes, because at the end of the day they can always be changed. Some will believe it is too hard, this is just another limiting belief. If you change the way you look at beliefs as just that a belief, rather than something set in concrete and for some people they may be, but it will be much easier to change them.
Are your beliefs real? This is where our brain tends to generalise things; for example, you may have been bitten by a dog and so now you have the belief that all dogs are bad. However, this is not really true, you were unfortunate enough to have been bitten once for a particular reason, but that doesn’t make ALL dogs bad. As a society we tend to do this quite a bit with, race, gender, sexuality and even blondes. Once I started looking and recognising this I noticed a change in my behaviour. I had a fear of spiders and believed they were ALL bad. However, I walked into my daughter’s room one morning to find a rather large spider on her mosquito net. Instead of screaming or spraying it til it was white with fly spray; I made a choice to do things differently. I went to the kitchen, grabbed a container with a lid, caught the spider and put it outside. I changed my belief and therefore changed my decision. I was quite proud of myself for achieving this and it also prevented me from projecting my believe onto my daughter, which leads us to our final question.
Are your beliefs yours or someone else’s? How many beliefs do you have as a result of your parents and upbringing or from friends and those around you that have influence? I guess a big example of this is religion, most who are brought up in a religious family have a tendency growing up with the same beliefs. There may be other examples that are not as significant, but also not ours. It is fine to have the same beliefs as others, as long as it is something that you actually believe. The key is to Know For Yourself.
Your task is to take a pen and a piece of paper, write down beliefs that are stopping you, beliefs that you don’t truly believe and beliefs that aren’t in alignment with your ultimate goal. I find it much better to understand, analyse and change things when I see them in black and white. You would be surprised at what you discover and how much you discover when you start writing. When looking at your beliefs on that piece of paper, ask yourself, are they really true. Happy Searching……