Did you know that only about 8% of people follow through with their new years resolution and there are many reasons why. I have never been one to set a new years resolution, but I did take some time to sit down and work out what I wanted for the new year and picked just a couple of things to focus on. Now if you are great at achieving your goals then that is awesome. However, if you set new years resolutions each year and never follow through, then what I am about to share might help you change that. This doesn’t just apply to new years resolutions, but goals in general, because if you don’t follow through in the new year then fair chance is that you set a lot of goals that you never achieve. I want to help you change this pattern and to achieve more in your life.
So I like I mentioned I decided to just pick a couple of things to focus on and here are the reasons why.
- If you pick 1 or 2 things to focus on then you are going to have more chance at achieving them. We can have a tendency to spread ourselves too thin and lose focus on what we were trying to achieve.
- Picking a couple of things doesn’t mean that is all I want to achieve, but the 2 things I did pick I know by mastering them they will cause a flow on effect to other parts of my life. This will make it easier to achieve my other goals and some of them will even happen effortlessly.
One other thing we need to look at before setting these goals is our mindset and this probably makes up about 90% of the process along with WHY we are wanting to achieve them. So let me share with you my 2 goals and the process I went through.
My first goal that I chose was to partake in a 10 week paleo challenge. Now like many of you I have done all sorts of fitness regimes, said I am going to eat healthier and well, none of them ever lasted very long. I have slowly started introducing some small changes along the way, but not anything that has produced significant results. I know that by improving my overall health I am going to to have more energy and with 2 kids and a business I could use all the help I can get. However, this time is different….it feels different and I feel different about it. It is really important that you do things that resonate with you and for me this option does, it makes sense to me and something I can do long term. I feel that is a really important point to take onboard, if it resonates with you there is more of a willingness to follow through. The other thing that has changed and this is where the mindset comes, instead of focusing on what I am cutting out of my diet (essentailly what I am missing out on) I am focusing on the excitement and creative challenges I get to encounter. It is interesting how when you start looking into things that they turn out not to be so hard or scary after all. It is about finding the fun and excitement and focusing on that instead of what you think you are missing out on.
My second goal is to be more consistent and organised and although it is 2 things they go hand in hand. Now as I mentioned I have 2 kids and a business and it can be a challenge juggling the 2 things as well as all the other Mum duties eg. cleaning 😦 . I find the best way to do this is to put a couple of things in place:
- Have a schedule and to-do list, and I know with kids it is not always going to work to plan, but it makes it a lot easier to remember everything you have to do instead of climbing into bed at the end of the day and thinking CRAP!! I forgot…..
- Start small and implement 1 or 2 things that you do consistently everyday. For me I have just started doing meditating, but I only do it for 10 minutes. It is really super important to make sure you take time-out for yourself. ESPECIALLY if you have kids, and I know we all say “when am I supposed to find the time”. I promise you that if you find just that 10 minutes every single day it will make a difference in every area of your life.
- Stop buying your own excuses. We really can be our own worst enemy and we allow our excuses to essentially enable our bad behaviour and then complain about it later. Whenever you hear yourself making some kind of excuse, stop yourself and think for 10 seconds. Ask yourself, is this a valid reason, is there a way I can actually do this, is this just a really bad excuse.
- Language is so so important and something that we probably don’t pay enough attention to. Eliminate the phrases “have to” and “need to” and replace them with “choose to” or “want to”. This may seem like an insignificant thing, but take a moment to think……when you have used “have to” or “need to”, how often di you actually done those things. As people we don’t like to be told we “have to” do things and it could quite possible stem back from childhood when I parents told us we “have to” do something. If you change your wording even slightly you will notice a difference, maybe not straight away but you will.
I am sure this has given you plenty to think about and I truly hope this helps you achieve more of your goals in life.
What is one thing that you would like to achieve this year?