Did you know that on average there is a plane taking off at Heathrow airport every 45 seconds? Why am I talking about planes, well it is the perfect example of building momentum. You aren’t going to turn on an airplane and expect it to instantly fly, you have to build up speed and then once you are up it gets much easier. That is kind of how business works, it is always tough at the start and you have to put much more work in, but then as you start building momentum it will get easier.
How do we build momentum? With consistency, this is the biggest key to building up that momentum. In the beginning it can seem a little overwhelming so I always start with small steps. Start with a couple of small things that you commit to each and every single day until it becomes a habit. They say it takes about 21 days to create a new habit, so once you have accomplished the first couple, then pick 2 or 3 more and commit to doing them each and every single day until they become habit.
What can derail your momentum? There are a number of things that can derail the consistency and therefore derail the momentum. Planning or lack of is one thing that can cause you to become unstuck. They say “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail”. Get into the habit of having a schedule and be disciplined to stick with it. Allocate certain amounts of time for each task and you will find yourself doing less paper shuffling. Learn to value your time; If you don’t value your time than others won’t either and you will probably find your time being taken up doing things for everyone else all the time. Don’t get disheartened; it can be easy to feel like a failure and like you are getting nowhere. You can change this by learning to count your wins everyday no matter how big or small. This will help you keep focused on the positive and not dragged under by the negative.
In summary, in order to help you create success you need to build momentum and this isn’t just for business, but can be applied to other areas of your life.
What is it going to take to get your plane off the runway?
Did you know that only about 8% of people follow through with their new years resolution and there are many reasons why. I have never been one to set a new years resolution, but I did take some time to sit down and work out what I wanted for the new year and picked just a couple of things to focus on. Now if you are great at achieving your goals then that is awesome. However, if you set new years resolutions each year and never follow through, then what I am about to share might help you change that. This doesn’t just apply to new years resolutions, but goals in general, because if you don’t follow through in the new year then fair chance is that you set a lot of goals that you never achieve. I want to help you change this pattern and to achieve more in your life.
So I like I mentioned I decided to just pick a couple of things to focus on and here are the reasons why.
If you pick 1 or 2 things to focus on then you are going to have more chance at achieving them. We can have a tendency to spread ourselves too thin and lose focus on what we were trying to achieve.
Picking a couple of things doesn’t mean that is all I want to achieve, but the 2 things I did pick I know by mastering them they will cause a flow on effect to other parts of my life. This will make it easier to achieve my other goals and some of them will even happen effortlessly.
One other thing we need to look at before setting these goals is our mindset and this probably makes up about 90% of the process along with WHY we are wanting to achieve them. So let me share with you my 2 goals and the process I went through.
My first goal that I chose was to partake in a 10 week paleo challenge. Now like many of you I have done all sorts of fitness regimes, said I am going to eat healthier and well, none of them ever lasted very long. I have slowly started introducing some small changes along the way, but not anything that has produced significant results. I know that by improving my overall health I am going to to have more energy and with 2 kids and a business I could use all the help I can get. However, this time is different….it feels different and I feel different about it. It is really important that you do things that resonate with you and for me this option does, it makes sense to me and something I can do long term. I feel that is a really important point to take onboard, if it resonates with you there is more of a willingness to follow through. The other thing that has changed and this is where the mindset comes, instead of focusing on what I am cutting out of my diet (essentailly what I am missing out on) I am focusing on the excitement and creative challenges I get to encounter. It is interesting how when you start looking into things that they turn out not to be so hard or scary after all. It is about finding the fun and excitement and focusing on that instead of what you think you are missing out on.
Learn to find the FUN in life
My second goal is to be more consistent and organised and although it is 2 things they go hand in hand. Now as I mentioned I have 2 kids and a business and it can be a challenge juggling the 2 things as well as all the other Mum duties eg. cleaning 😦 . I find the best way to do this is to put a couple of things in place:
Have a schedule and to-do list, and I know with kids it is not always going to work to plan, but it makes it a lot easier to remember everything you have to do instead of climbing into bed at the end of the day and thinking CRAP!! I forgot…..
Start small and implement 1 or 2 things that you do consistently everyday. For me I have just started doing meditating, but I only do it for 10 minutes. It is really super important to make sure you take time-out for yourself. ESPECIALLY if you have kids, and I know we all say “when am I supposed to find the time”. I promise you that if you find just that 10 minutes every single day it will make a difference in every area of your life.
Stop buying your own excuses. We really can be our own worst enemy and we allow our excuses to essentially enable our bad behaviour and then complain about it later. Whenever you hear yourself making some kind of excuse, stop yourself and think for 10 seconds. Ask yourself, is this a valid reason, is there a way I can actually do this, is this just a really bad excuse.
Language is so so important and something that we probably don’t pay enough attention to. Eliminate the phrases “have to” and “need to” and replace them with “choose to” or “want to”. This may seem like an insignificant thing, but take a moment to think……when you have used “have to” or “need to”, how often di you actually done those things. As people we don’t like to be told we “have to” do things and it could quite possible stem back from childhood when I parents told us we “have to” do something. If you change your wording even slightly you will notice a difference, maybe not straight away but you will.
I am sure this has given you plenty to think about and I truly hope this helps you achieve more of your goals in life.
What is one thing that you would like to achieve this year?
In business, personal connections are everything. People prefer to do business with those who are recommended by people they know. In a recent Nielsen report a staggering 77% of consumers are more likely to buy a new product when learning about it from friends and family and 92% of people trust recommendations from friends and family more than all other forms of marketing.
As trust in advertising declines, word of mouth marketing via social networks has become the most effective means of building a loyal base of brand ambassadors. That means…more engagement and more revenue for your brand.
The ability to network, and network well, is one of the biggest factors in business and personal success. Peta Di Palma, who founded Tribe Side Networking offers her top 5 tips on making sure networking events give you a good return on the time invested:
PLAN AHEAD: Before you attend a networking event, think about the true reason you’re there. The overall point of a business-networking event is to establish and develop business connections. Target your connections and set a goal to identify who you need to know and who needs to know you. Who are the decision makers and key influencers? Where can I meet them? How do I get into their circles? What is it I want from this networking event?
MINDSET: It only takes a moment’s conscious decision to become a networker. All it requires is a slight shift in attitude, and adopting one simple trifurcated rule:
Great each new acquaintance with an openness to learn more about that person.
Have a willingness to help, and
Offer to stay in touch
Your ultimate goal of networking should be to help other people. Networking is a two way street and your side of the street is all about helping others, not asking them to help you! When you approach others with a willingness to learn more about the person and add some value to them, the favour is returned in spades.
PREPARE QUESTIONS: Have a few targeted, engaging questions prepared ahead of time and stay informed with current events. Before the event have some “back pocket” or “handbag” conversation topics handy. Pick 3-5 items to use as emergency re-starter in case the conversation starts to drag. You need to move past the “where are you from?” and “So, what brings you here today?” quickly. Some of the questions you can ask to keep conversations going are:
Just out of curiosity, Why do you attend networking events? When you start a conversation with “Just out of curiosity” most people will move towards you.
What do you like best about what you do? This is two questions in one – this also asks the question, “So what do you do?” This question, unlike the same old, What do you do, gets people in conversation mode rather than just giving you a short answer.
When did you get started in that direction? This gives your new contact a chance to tell a story and people love telling stories about themselves.
Who can I help you meet? Now that you have made a connection, this is the time to show you care. People don’t care what you know until they know that you care. Listen for the types of people they want to meet that you can introduce them to later or at the same event.
ALLOW TIME: Unless it’s a speed-networking event, don’t hop from one conversation to another in a matter of minutes. The first five minutes of a conversation at a networking event usually involve introductions and polite chitchat. When you take the time to truly connect with someone, you begin to form the foundation of a professional relationship. The strength and longevity of your business relationships will depend more on the quality of your connections than the quantity. When you find the right connections, stay and chat for a while. You might find your effortsmore effective if you choose to speak to a handful of individuals than 20 If they are not the right connections, observe the five-minute rule and move on politely!
LISTEN: Not only is effective listening one of the most important things you can learn to do, it is also one of the most important elements of networking. Be present and take it in.
I want to give a big thanks to Peta for providing some great tips. I will certainly be using them at my next event, how about you?
IF YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, YOU CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING
Everyone who is successful is engaged in what they do. This is why having a purpose is so important. It is the driving force that pushes and keeps us on track. Up until recently I had no real purpose or direction in my life and was feeling a bit lost. I am not sure what triggered it, but I decided that I wanted more, I wasn’t happy where I was and I knew that the only person who could change that was me. With this in mind, I made a couple of decisions that started a chain reaction of events that changed everything for me. I now have more purpose in life and direction, not only that I have been able to influence people around me to start creating a better life for themselves.
Here is a little bit of homework to help you on your way.
Brainstorm some of the things you love to do and enjoy, If you could do anything and money or time wasn’t a factor, what would you do?
Think about the 3 things you are naturally gifted at
What power words evoke a strong positive emotion in your body?
Once you have answered all these questions you will then need to do some soul searching to discover you purpose in life. Make sure you state your purpose in a positive manner, be brief and to the point.
“I Kimberly am on this earth to utilize the tools given to become the best version of me so I can influence those around me to create an amazing life for themselves.”
Once you have done this you will be on your way to creating a better and more fulfilling life for yourself and you would be surprised at how good it feels.
I would love to hear how you go in doing this, something as simple as sharing your journey can help others in achieving the same.