Have you ever wondered why some things happen in your life? Do you wonder what you did wrong? I am not a religious person, but I have heard people comment that if there was a God then why do bad things happen or why do bad things happen to good people. This quote really sums it up, it is not about doing anything wrong and it is not about universal vengeance. It is about being given these challenges in order for us to grow and learn. Challenges in life should be seen as a blessing, not a hindrance. If everything was smooth sailing, not only would life be REALLY boring, but we wouldn’t grow as people either. The next time something happens and you view it as bad, take a moment to look a little closer and see what you can learn from it.
It is really important in order to create the life you want it all has to start with you. It is up to you to ensure that you are surrounding yourself with the people who are going to help you to move in the direction you want. This can be a challenging step as we often allow ourselves to feel guilt for limiting the time we spend with certain people. Sometimes these people include family or friends. You owe it to yourself to create the necessary environment to create success and you should not feel guilty about it. It doesn’t mean being mean or making people wrong, but simply giving yourself the space to achieve what you want.
Have you ever heard of mind movies. They are great tool to help train your brain in order to create the things you want in life. This is one that I have just recently created with my goals for the next few months. Make sure if you are making a mind movie that you use phrases starting with “I am” and “I have” as this will place your mind in a state of already being. I just used http://www.animoto.com as you can make free 30 second movies, but there are plenty of programs and sites out there. Have some fun with it and see what you can create.
What will it take for you to make the changes you truly want in your life? This video sums up what inspires me to change. http://www.liveanddreamtoday.com
Acceptance is the first step in moving forward and yet so often we judge ourselves instead. Have you been guilty of judging yourself in the last day, the last week, the last month or the last year? I am sure there isn’t too many who would answer no to this question.
So why is acceptance so important? Acceptance is a proactive state which is going to help you in moving forward and creating the life you want. Acceptance does not mean you have to be happy and ok with where you are, but it will lower your anxiety and help you to relax. Judgement on the other hand takes up a lot of our energy. Judgement causes low self-esteem, stress and anxiety so I am sure you can see how this is NOT a proactive state. Make the choice here and now to unconditionally accept where you are right here and now.
“WE ARE OUR OWN WORST ENEMY”
Learn to pay more attention to your breathing as it is a mirror of what is happening on the inside. If you accept your breathing you will straight away feel more relaxed. I have an exercise that was given to me and now I want to share it with you. Take 5 minutes that is all you need and focus on your breathing with a little more focus and force on the exhale. Once you are focusing on your exhale, every time you exhale say your name to yourself. It may feel a little weird at first, but take note as to how you feel after 5 minutes.
“THE UNIVERSE REWARDS ACTION”
Give this a go and comment below how you found the exercise. Did you find it easy? Did you feel more relaxed? Will you use it more in your everyday life?
So often people just don’t believe they need to be of service or it has to be some grand gesture to count, but I have learnt that this just ins’t the case. Being of service can be something small and can occur at any time. By doing so not only are you helping someone out in need but it simply makes you feel good. We are all searching for more happiness in our life and this is a great place to start. Let me share a story that happened to me only last week, it wasn’t planned, it wasn’t big, but it did have the desired effect.
“Be the change you want to see in the World”. Ghandi
Travelling to Victor Harbor to see family when my husband and I passed a car that was pulled over. There was a much older couple looking as though there was something wrong with their car. As we passed them I saw that they had a flat tyre. Now I don’t know about you, but I have changed a few in my time and they are not fun let a lone trying to do it when your body doesn’t have the capabilities it used to . I said to my husband that we should really turn around and help them out. My husband replied with “if we have to”, knowing he would be the one who would be changing the tyre. With a smile on my face I turned the car around and arrived to find 2 lovely and extremely grateful people. Within less than 15 minutes the job was done. The couple were happy because someone nice stopped to help them, and we felt great for doing our good deed for the day.
What was the last thing you did to help someone in need?