Are You Holding On Too Tight?

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I had a bit of an aha moment this week and I wanted to take some time to share as I am sure I am not the only one that either has been or is in this situation.  I guess this is one of the things I love about personal development, always being on a constant journey of discovery and better yet I get to share and help others.

We all have ideas as to how things should be, some people want to get married, have 2 kids and buy a house with the white picket fence.  Some believe that life should just be a certain way and there is no budging.  It is great to have a picture of what you want and where you want to go, but where we can fall down is being too attached as to how we are going to achieve that.  We feel that some choices are like taking a step back and we attach negative connotations to it.  When in fact sometimes we need to take a step back in order to propel us forward in life, a bit like a bow and arrow.

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Let me paint a little picture for you so you know where I am going.  When my husband and I first got together nearly 11 years ago it was always spoken about that I would stay home with the kids and he would “provide”.  I always wanted to be a mum if nothing else and I saw this, at the time, as my ideal situation.  A lot of things have occurred over the last couple of years that hasn’t made this choice very easy.  A recent opportunity came up which would completely flip the roles that my husband and I play.  At first there was resistance, a lot of resistance, but taking time this week to think and reflect has been quite eye opening.   Perception plays a big role in the choices we make and it is something you have the power to control.

“Sometimes In Life You Need To Let Go Of What Is In Order To Make Room For What Could Be”

Sometimes in life we need to learn to let go of what is or our current ideas in order to make room for what could be.  This can be a little uncomfortable for a lot of us, but all good things happen just on the other side of that discomfort.  Taking the time to reflect has now allowed me to see the benefits of taking up this opportunity and now open to it either way.

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When have you let go of something and received something even better?

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WHY I WORK FROM HOME

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Did you know that approx 70% of people quit their job as a result of their boss?  Now that is not entirely what happened to me, but I wanted to take a moment to share with you a little about my story and how I ended up on the path of working from home.

So my journey actually began just over 2 years ago, I had just returned to work after having my daughter.  She went to childcare 3 days a week, while I worked my job.  It all seemed good in theory, but theories are just that and not always what happens in real life.  My daughter got sick all the time and for the first 7 months I was having every second week off work.  I felt like I was stuck between a rock and a hard place.  My daughter was always going to be top of my priority list, but I had a job that had sales targets and expectations that I was expected to achieve whether I was there or not.  I starting thinking to myself “there had to be more to life, there had to be a better way”.  This sent me searching on what I had thought would be another job, as I had 0 ambition to have my own business as I bought into everything people had told me about business, well traditional business.

While searching for another job, the universe had other ideas and led me to a webpage offering a business opportunity.  I was extremely reluctant to say the least, but thought I would just find out.  I received a phone call, listened to what the person had to say on the phone and was sent through some more information.  As soon as I got off the phone I instantly searched the internet to see if it was a scam.  I went through the information and there was just something about it that was pulling me in, I was looking for more in my life and this is what it was offering.  During this process the saying, “the definition of insanity-doing the same thing and expecting a different result” kept popping up.  I knew if I wanted different results I had to make different decisions, so I got started.

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Has it been easy? No, but nothing that is easy is every rewarding in life.  Although working from home can have it’s own set of challenges, it is certainly a whole lot less than my job did.  Now I get to have the flexibility I want, I get to take my daughter to dance lessons and both kids do swimming lessons and if one of the kids is sick I don’t have to explain myself to anyone.  I really do love working from home and I have gone from being an unhappy stressed out Mum to being happy and setting an example for my kids I can be proud of.


If you or someone you know has been considering working from home I would love to be able to help.  Go to www.liveanddreamtoday.com for more information

Money isn’t everything, but it is up there with oxygen

money is like oxxygenI always find it interesting when I talk to people and they tell me that money isn’t that important.  However, it is these people that are stressing about paying their bills or working ridiculous hours to keep a roof over their head.  Money is not a bad thing and wanting money is not a bad thing.  Having money means you become self reliant instead of relying on others or the government.  Having money means that you are able to experience more in life.  Having money gives you the ability to be able to give back and help others.  I was bought up believing that all rich people are A$@#holes.  What I have now learned is that money simply magnifies the person you already are.  So if someone is an A$@#hole then they are going to be so with or without money.  People fear that if they had a lot of money it will change them.  I can ensure you that this is a Big Fat Myth and simply not true.  So go out with a desire to earn a crap load of money and enjoy life.

Tired Of Falling Off The Band Wagon?

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How many times have you said you are going to change something or do something, but not follow through.  You might do it for a little while, but then resort back to your old habits.  If you fall into this category then I can totally relate.  It is frustrating, tiring and does nothing for your confidence levels.  You kind of feel like why bother and I have been there plenty of times myself.  I am here to help you overcome this issue and finally achieve your goals.  Let me run through the 7 steps that I use which is helping me achieve my goals.

  1. MINDSET –  I can not stress how important this is.  If you don’t have this than it is not worth even starting because it will sabotage you quicker than you can say your name.  How do we change it?  Well personal development is a great tool and one that I use on a daily basis.  Your first step before you start anything else is Mindset Mindset Mindset.
  2. MEDITATION/VISUALISATION –  Now I know this may seem a little hippy to some, but I have found that this is one thing that really has been the change lately and noticed the effect it has.  You don’t have to meditate for hours, in fact I have a guided meditation that I do in the morning that goes for 11 minutes.  During this time visualise what it is you are wanting to achieve and how it feels.  When I have finished it makes me feel calm, balanced and ready to take on the world
  3. COMMUNITY – You are always going to be more successful when you surround yourself with the right people.  You want positive people who are moving in a similar direction that you want to head.  If you are overweight and unhealthy then you need to go and hang out with healthy people.  This may mean that you may have to limit the time or cut it out altogether with the people you currently hang around with.  I know it can be hard to do this and we allow guilt to dictate our decisions.  There is a saying “sometimes you have to let go of the old so you can make room for the new”.  That is life and if you truly want to achieve your goal then you need to overcome your fear and guilt.
  4. POSTURE – Act as if you are already living the life that you want and have a bit of fun with it.  LIFE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE BORING!! So often we do things the wrong way around and you might catch yourself saying I will be confident when I am thin.  This is the attitude of Have Do Be.  What you need to do is change it around to a Be Do Have posture.  So be confident, take the action towards your goal and then you will be thin.  If you think it sounds simple it’s because it is, doesn’t mean it won’t require work.  We as humans like to complicate things.
  5. COUNT YOUR WINS – We spend so much time focusing on the negative, what we didn’t do, what we did do, what we haven’t achieved.  That is not motivating for anyone, in fact it is making me feel unmotivated just writing it.  Count your wins, focus on the positive, each night write down 10 things that you achieved, even if it is “I didn’t hit the snooze button on my alarm this morning”.  That is a win and you should celebrate it.  Also be sure to set yourself little milestones and reward yourself for reaching them.
  6. GRATITUDE – This one is probably just as important as the first and one that probably isn’t practiced enough.  Be grateful for things, anything, everything.  By being grateful not only are you putting positive energy out into the universe, but it allows you to place a focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have.
  7. SOLUTIONS NOT EXCUSES – Have you found yourself coming up with every excuse under the sun for not doing something and then bitching later because you didn’t do it, surely I can’t be the only one.  When you hear yourself coming up with an excuse, turn it around and ask yourself, “what is the solution”.  STOP BUYING YOUR EXCUSES!!!!
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I really hope these steps help you when setting your next goal.  I do apologise about the length, it was only supposed to be about 4 steps, but I guess I got a little carried away.

I would love to hear your thoughts and what your goals are.

5 Tips to Get The Most Out of Networking

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In business, personal connections are everything. People prefer to do business with those who are recommended by people they know. In a recent Nielsen report a staggering 77% of consumers are more likely to buy a new product when learning about it from friends and family and 92% of people trust recommendations from friends and family more than all other forms of marketing.

As trust in advertising declines, word of mouth marketing via social networks has become the most effective means of building a loyal base of brand ambassadors. That means…more engagement and more revenue for your brand.

The ability to network, and network well, is one of the biggest factors in business and personal success. Peta Di Palma, who founded Tribe Side Networking offers her top 5 tips on making sure networking events give you a good return on the time invested:

  • PLAN AHEAD: Before you attend a networking event, think about the true reason you’re there. The overall point of a business-networking event is to establish and develop business connections. Target your connections and set a goal to identify who you need to know and who needs to know you. Who are the decision makers and key influencers? Where can I meet them? How do I get into their circles? What is it I want from this networking event?
  • MINDSET: It only takes a moment’s conscious decision to become a networker. All it requires is a slight shift in attitude, and adopting one simple trifurcated rule:
  • Great each new acquaintance with an openness to learn more about that person.
  • Have a willingness to help, and
  • Offer to stay in touch

Your ultimate goal of networking should be to help other people.  Networking is a two way street and your side of the street is all about helping others, not asking them to help you! When you approach others with a willingness to learn more about the person and add some value to them, the favour is returned in spades.

  • PREPARE QUESTIONS: Have a few targeted, engaging questions prepared ahead of time and stay informed with current events. Before the event have some “back pocket” or “handbag” conversation topics handy. Pick 3-5 items to use as emergency re-starter in case the conversation starts to drag. You need to move past the “where are you from?” and “So, what brings you here today?” quickly. Some of the questions you can ask to  keep conversations going are:
  • Just out of curiosity, Why do you attend networking events? When you start a conversation with “Just out of curiosity” most people will move towards you.
  • What do you like best about what you do? This is two questions in one – this also asks the question, “So what do you do?” This question, unlike the same old, What do you do, gets people in conversation mode rather than just giving you a short answer.
  • When did you get started in that direction? This gives your new contact a chance to tell a story and people love telling stories about themselves.
  • Who can I help you meet? Now that you have made a connection, this is the time to show you care. People don’t care what you know until they know that you care. Listen for the types of people they want to meet that you can introduce them to later or at the same event.
  • ALLOW TIME: Unless it’s a speed-networking event, don’t hop from one conversation to another in a matter of minutes. The first five minutes of a conversation at a networking event usually involve introductions and polite chitchat.  When you take the time to truly connect with someone, you begin to form the foundation of a professional relationship. The strength and longevity of your business relationships will depend more on the quality of your connections than the quantity. When you find the right connections, stay and chat for a while. You might find your effortsmore effective if you choose to speak to a handful of individuals than 20 If they are not the right connections, observe the five-minute rule and move on politely!
  • LISTEN: Not only is effective listening one of the most important things you can learn to do, it is also one of the most important elements of networking. Be present and take it in.

I want to give a big thanks to Peta for providing some great tips.  I will certainly be using them at my next event, how about you?

7 Steps To Achieving Success

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Part 7 – Community

So far in the 7 steps to achieving success we have looked at goal setting, meditation, beliefs, stoppers, reflection, and language.  The final step in this is probably one of the most crucial and can be the final stumbling block for people and that is community, the people you surround yourself with.

I am sure you have heard saying like “you are a product of your surroundings”, “you become what you hang around with” and ” you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”.  In order to create the success you desire you need to ensure you are surrounding yourself with the people who are going to enable you, not disable you.  This can be tough because some of the people who end up working against you are your own family.  I am not saying you need to cut these people out of your life completely, but simply limit the time and influence they have on your life.

Once you have looked at the previous steps you will have a pretty good idea as to where you are wanting to head and what you are wanting to achieve. You then need to find people who are on a similar path or have already traveled the path.  These are the people that you need to spend more of your time with.  When you are in the process of doing this be sure that you don’t full into the trap of explaining or justifying your actions.  It is your dream, your goals, your life and no one will understand it like you do and you can’t expect them to.  I hope these steps help you in achieving all that you desire for your life.