Are You Holding On Too Tight?

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I had a bit of an aha moment this week and I wanted to take some time to share as I am sure I am not the only one that either has been or is in this situation.  I guess this is one of the things I love about personal development, always being on a constant journey of discovery and better yet I get to share and help others.

We all have ideas as to how things should be, some people want to get married, have 2 kids and buy a house with the white picket fence.  Some believe that life should just be a certain way and there is no budging.  It is great to have a picture of what you want and where you want to go, but where we can fall down is being too attached as to how we are going to achieve that.  We feel that some choices are like taking a step back and we attach negative connotations to it.  When in fact sometimes we need to take a step back in order to propel us forward in life, a bit like a bow and arrow.

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Let me paint a little picture for you so you know where I am going.  When my husband and I first got together nearly 11 years ago it was always spoken about that I would stay home with the kids and he would “provide”.  I always wanted to be a mum if nothing else and I saw this, at the time, as my ideal situation.  A lot of things have occurred over the last couple of years that hasn’t made this choice very easy.  A recent opportunity came up which would completely flip the roles that my husband and I play.  At first there was resistance, a lot of resistance, but taking time this week to think and reflect has been quite eye opening.   Perception plays a big role in the choices we make and it is something you have the power to control.

“Sometimes In Life You Need To Let Go Of What Is In Order To Make Room For What Could Be”

Sometimes in life we need to learn to let go of what is or our current ideas in order to make room for what could be.  This can be a little uncomfortable for a lot of us, but all good things happen just on the other side of that discomfort.  Taking the time to reflect has now allowed me to see the benefits of taking up this opportunity and now open to it either way.

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When have you let go of something and received something even better?

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WHY I WORK FROM HOME

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Did you know that approx 70% of people quit their job as a result of their boss?  Now that is not entirely what happened to me, but I wanted to take a moment to share with you a little about my story and how I ended up on the path of working from home.

So my journey actually began just over 2 years ago, I had just returned to work after having my daughter.  She went to childcare 3 days a week, while I worked my job.  It all seemed good in theory, but theories are just that and not always what happens in real life.  My daughter got sick all the time and for the first 7 months I was having every second week off work.  I felt like I was stuck between a rock and a hard place.  My daughter was always going to be top of my priority list, but I had a job that had sales targets and expectations that I was expected to achieve whether I was there or not.  I starting thinking to myself “there had to be more to life, there had to be a better way”.  This sent me searching on what I had thought would be another job, as I had 0 ambition to have my own business as I bought into everything people had told me about business, well traditional business.

While searching for another job, the universe had other ideas and led me to a webpage offering a business opportunity.  I was extremely reluctant to say the least, but thought I would just find out.  I received a phone call, listened to what the person had to say on the phone and was sent through some more information.  As soon as I got off the phone I instantly searched the internet to see if it was a scam.  I went through the information and there was just something about it that was pulling me in, I was looking for more in my life and this is what it was offering.  During this process the saying, “the definition of insanity-doing the same thing and expecting a different result” kept popping up.  I knew if I wanted different results I had to make different decisions, so I got started.

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Has it been easy? No, but nothing that is easy is every rewarding in life.  Although working from home can have it’s own set of challenges, it is certainly a whole lot less than my job did.  Now I get to have the flexibility I want, I get to take my daughter to dance lessons and both kids do swimming lessons and if one of the kids is sick I don’t have to explain myself to anyone.  I really do love working from home and I have gone from being an unhappy stressed out Mum to being happy and setting an example for my kids I can be proud of.


If you or someone you know has been considering working from home I would love to be able to help.  Go to www.liveanddreamtoday.com for more information

Do You Respect Yourself?

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It is really important in order to create the life you want it all has to start with you.  It is up to you to ensure that you are surrounding yourself with the people who are going to help you to move in the direction you want.  This can be a challenging step as we often allow ourselves to feel guilt for limiting the time we spend with certain people.  Sometimes these people include family or friends.  You owe it to yourself to create the necessary environment to create success and you should not feel guilty about it.  It doesn’t mean being mean or making people wrong, but simply giving yourself the space to achieve what you want.

7 Steps To Achieving Success

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Part 7 – Community

So far in the 7 steps to achieving success we have looked at goal setting, meditation, beliefs, stoppers, reflection, and language.  The final step in this is probably one of the most crucial and can be the final stumbling block for people and that is community, the people you surround yourself with.

I am sure you have heard saying like “you are a product of your surroundings”, “you become what you hang around with” and ” you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”.  In order to create the success you desire you need to ensure you are surrounding yourself with the people who are going to enable you, not disable you.  This can be tough because some of the people who end up working against you are your own family.  I am not saying you need to cut these people out of your life completely, but simply limit the time and influence they have on your life.

Once you have looked at the previous steps you will have a pretty good idea as to where you are wanting to head and what you are wanting to achieve. You then need to find people who are on a similar path or have already traveled the path.  These are the people that you need to spend more of your time with.  When you are in the process of doing this be sure that you don’t full into the trap of explaining or justifying your actions.  It is your dream, your goals, your life and no one will understand it like you do and you can’t expect them to.  I hope these steps help you in achieving all that you desire for your life.

Are You Looking For A New Opportunity?

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Are you tired of working the same old job? Maybe you have just decided that there has to be more to life. I know because that is where I was.

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What will it take for you to make the changes you truly want in your life? This video sums up what inspires me to change. http://www.liveanddreamtoday.com

WHO MAKES YOUR DECISIONS

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Do you allow what society believes is right to dictate how you make your choices in life.  It is a constant battle and you have to be always working on yourself to ensure that this does not occur.  I know for myself I spent so much time making choices on what others thought was right rather than doing what was right for me.  Every now and then I still catch myself allowing other people’s opinions to affect my choices.  This happened recently and would like to share with you.

As a family we have recently had a few challenges that temporarily sent our household into a bit of chaos.  Our daughter recently got her tonsils out and had to stay overnight in hospital, which until we were there I was unaware of.  This put a rather large spanner in the works as I am still breastfeeding my son and he was at home with my parents.  We don’t live just around the corner from the hospital and so consequently went about 36 hours without breastfeeding and I am sure that any breastfeeding Mum knows how painful that can actually become.IMG_4135

Due to a number of circumstances, breastfeeding in the last week has been quite a lot more challenging and was finding myself having to feed usually every 2 hours which is a lot and quite exhausting.  I never had these kinds of challenges with my first and was able to breastfeed until she was 7 months old without any issues.  This has led me tossing up as to whether to persist or to transfer my son onto formula.

This is where my dilemma comes in.  I only realised yesterday that I was looking at the wrong things when trying to make my choice.  I was basing my current experience on my past experience with my daughter which doesn’t really work as both my children are completely different with different personalities, needs and wants.  I was also taking into account what society believes is the right thing to do instead of worrying about what is right for me and my family.  Once I realised this it made my decision so much easier.  So when you are making choices in your life, ask yourself, what are you basing your choices on; what society believes is right or what is right for YOU.