Did you know that approx 70% of people quit their job as a result of their boss? Now that is not entirely what happened to me, but I wanted to take a moment to share with you a little about my story and how I ended up on the path of working from home.
So my journey actually began just over 2 years ago, I had just returned to work after having my daughter. She went to childcare 3 days a week, while I worked my job. It all seemed good in theory, but theories are just that and not always what happens in real life. My daughter got sick all the time and for the first 7 months I was having every second week off work. I felt like I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. My daughter was always going to be top of my priority list, but I had a job that had sales targets and expectations that I was expected to achieve whether I was there or not. I starting thinking to myself “there had to be more to life, there had to be a better way”. This sent me searching on what I had thought would be another job, as I had 0 ambition to have my own business as I bought into everything people had told me about business, well traditional business.
While searching for another job, the universe had other ideas and led me to a webpage offering a business opportunity. I was extremely reluctant to say the least, but thought I would just find out. I received a phone call, listened to what the person had to say on the phone and was sent through some more information. As soon as I got off the phone I instantly searched the internet to see if it was a scam. I went through the information and there was just something about it that was pulling me in, I was looking for more in my life and this is what it was offering. During this process the saying, “the definition of insanity-doing the same thing and expecting a different result” kept popping up. I knew if I wanted different results I had to make different decisions, so I got started.
Has it been easy? No, but nothing that is easy is every rewarding in life. Although working from home can have it’s own set of challenges, it is certainly a whole lot less than my job did. Now I get to have the flexibility I want, I get to take my daughter to dance lessons and both kids do swimming lessons and if one of the kids is sick I don’t have to explain myself to anyone. I really do love working from home and I have gone from being an unhappy stressed out Mum to being happy and setting an example for my kids I can be proud of.
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I always find it interesting when I talk to people and they tell me that money isn’t that important. However, it is these people that are stressing about paying their bills or working ridiculous hours to keep a roof over their head. Money is not a bad thing and wanting money is not a bad thing. Having money means you become self reliant instead of relying on others or the government. Having money means that you are able to experience more in life. Having money gives you the ability to be able to give back and help others. I was bought up believing that all rich people are A$@#holes. What I have now learned is that money simply magnifies the person you already are. So if someone is an A$@#hole then they are going to be so with or without money. People fear that if they had a lot of money it will change them. I can ensure you that this is a Big Fat Myth and simply not true. So go out with a desire to earn a crap load of money and enjoy life.
How many times have you said you are going to change something or do something, but not follow through. You might do it for a little while, but then resort back to your old habits. If you fall into this category then I can totally relate. It is frustrating, tiring and does nothing for your confidence levels. You kind of feel like why bother and I have been there plenty of times myself. I am here to help you overcome this issue and finally achieve your goals. Let me run through the 7 steps that I use which is helping me achieve my goals.
MINDSET – I can not stress how important this is. If you don’t have this than it is not worth even starting because it will sabotage you quicker than you can say your name. How do we change it? Well personal development is a great tool and one that I use on a daily basis. Your first step before you start anything else is Mindset Mindset Mindset.
MEDITATION/VISUALISATION – Now I know this may seem a little hippy to some, but I have found that this is one thing that really has been the change lately and noticed the effect it has. You don’t have to meditate for hours, in fact I have a guided meditation that I do in the morning that goes for 11 minutes. During this time visualise what it is you are wanting to achieve and how it feels. When I have finished it makes me feel calm, balanced and ready to take on the world
COMMUNITY – You are always going to be more successful when you surround yourself with the right people. You want positive people who are moving in a similar direction that you want to head. If you are overweight and unhealthy then you need to go and hang out with healthy people. This may mean that you may have to limit the time or cut it out altogether with the people you currently hang around with. I know it can be hard to do this and we allow guilt to dictate our decisions. There is a saying “sometimes you have to let go of the old so you can make room for the new”. That is life and if you truly want to achieve your goal then you need to overcome your fear and guilt.
POSTURE – Act as if you are already living the life that you want and have a bit of fun with it. LIFE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE BORING!! So often we do things the wrong way around and you might catch yourself saying I will be confident when I am thin. This is the attitude of Have Do Be. What you need to do is change it around to a Be Do Have posture. So be confident, take the action towards your goal and then you will be thin. If you think it sounds simple it’s because it is, doesn’t mean it won’t require work. We as humans like to complicate things.
COUNT YOUR WINS – We spend so much time focusing on the negative, what we didn’t do, what we did do, what we haven’t achieved. That is not motivating for anyone, in fact it is making me feel unmotivated just writing it. Count your wins, focus on the positive, each night write down 10 things that you achieved, even if it is “I didn’t hit the snooze button on my alarm this morning”. That is a win and you should celebrate it. Also be sure to set yourself little milestones and reward yourself for reaching them.
GRATITUDE – This one is probably just as important as the first and one that probably isn’t practiced enough. Be grateful for things, anything, everything. By being grateful not only are you putting positive energy out into the universe, but it allows you to place a focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have.
SOLUTIONS NOT EXCUSES – Have you found yourself coming up with every excuse under the sun for not doing something and then bitching later because you didn’t do it, surely I can’t be the only one. When you hear yourself coming up with an excuse, turn it around and ask yourself, “what is the solution”. STOP BUYING YOUR EXCUSES!!!!
I really hope these steps help you when setting your next goal. I do apologise about the length, it was only supposed to be about 4 steps, but I guess I got a little carried away.
I would love to hear your thoughts and what your goals are.
It is really important in order to create the life you want it all has to start with you. It is up to you to ensure that you are surrounding yourself with the people who are going to help you to move in the direction you want. This can be a challenging step as we often allow ourselves to feel guilt for limiting the time we spend with certain people. Sometimes these people include family or friends. You owe it to yourself to create the necessary environment to create success and you should not feel guilty about it. It doesn’t mean being mean or making people wrong, but simply giving yourself the space to achieve what you want.
Did you know that only about 8% of people follow through with their new years resolution and there are many reasons why. I have never been one to set a new years resolution, but I did take some time to sit down and work out what I wanted for the new year and picked just a couple of things to focus on. Now if you are great at achieving your goals then that is awesome. However, if you set new years resolutions each year and never follow through, then what I am about to share might help you change that. This doesn’t just apply to new years resolutions, but goals in general, because if you don’t follow through in the new year then fair chance is that you set a lot of goals that you never achieve. I want to help you change this pattern and to achieve more in your life.
So I like I mentioned I decided to just pick a couple of things to focus on and here are the reasons why.
If you pick 1 or 2 things to focus on then you are going to have more chance at achieving them. We can have a tendency to spread ourselves too thin and lose focus on what we were trying to achieve.
Picking a couple of things doesn’t mean that is all I want to achieve, but the 2 things I did pick I know by mastering them they will cause a flow on effect to other parts of my life. This will make it easier to achieve my other goals and some of them will even happen effortlessly.
One other thing we need to look at before setting these goals is our mindset and this probably makes up about 90% of the process along with WHY we are wanting to achieve them. So let me share with you my 2 goals and the process I went through.
My first goal that I chose was to partake in a 10 week paleo challenge. Now like many of you I have done all sorts of fitness regimes, said I am going to eat healthier and well, none of them ever lasted very long. I have slowly started introducing some small changes along the way, but not anything that has produced significant results. I know that by improving my overall health I am going to to have more energy and with 2 kids and a business I could use all the help I can get. However, this time is different….it feels different and I feel different about it. It is really important that you do things that resonate with you and for me this option does, it makes sense to me and something I can do long term. I feel that is a really important point to take onboard, if it resonates with you there is more of a willingness to follow through. The other thing that has changed and this is where the mindset comes, instead of focusing on what I am cutting out of my diet (essentailly what I am missing out on) I am focusing on the excitement and creative challenges I get to encounter. It is interesting how when you start looking into things that they turn out not to be so hard or scary after all. It is about finding the fun and excitement and focusing on that instead of what you think you are missing out on.
Learn to find the FUN in life
My second goal is to be more consistent and organised and although it is 2 things they go hand in hand. Now as I mentioned I have 2 kids and a business and it can be a challenge juggling the 2 things as well as all the other Mum duties eg. cleaning 😦 . I find the best way to do this is to put a couple of things in place:
Have a schedule and to-do list, and I know with kids it is not always going to work to plan, but it makes it a lot easier to remember everything you have to do instead of climbing into bed at the end of the day and thinking CRAP!! I forgot…..
Start small and implement 1 or 2 things that you do consistently everyday. For me I have just started doing meditating, but I only do it for 10 minutes. It is really super important to make sure you take time-out for yourself. ESPECIALLY if you have kids, and I know we all say “when am I supposed to find the time”. I promise you that if you find just that 10 minutes every single day it will make a difference in every area of your life.
Stop buying your own excuses. We really can be our own worst enemy and we allow our excuses to essentially enable our bad behaviour and then complain about it later. Whenever you hear yourself making some kind of excuse, stop yourself and think for 10 seconds. Ask yourself, is this a valid reason, is there a way I can actually do this, is this just a really bad excuse.
Language is so so important and something that we probably don’t pay enough attention to. Eliminate the phrases “have to” and “need to” and replace them with “choose to” or “want to”. This may seem like an insignificant thing, but take a moment to think……when you have used “have to” or “need to”, how often di you actually done those things. As people we don’t like to be told we “have to” do things and it could quite possible stem back from childhood when I parents told us we “have to” do something. If you change your wording even slightly you will notice a difference, maybe not straight away but you will.
I am sure this has given you plenty to think about and I truly hope this helps you achieve more of your goals in life.
What is one thing that you would like to achieve this year?
So far in the 7 steps to achieving success we have looked at goal setting, meditation, beliefs, stoppers, reflection, and language. The final step in this is probably one of the most crucial and can be the final stumbling block for people and that is community, the people you surround yourself with.
I am sure you have heard saying like “you are a product of your surroundings”, “you become what you hang around with” and ” you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. In order to create the success you desire you need to ensure you are surrounding yourself with the people who are going to enable you, not disable you. This can be tough because some of the people who end up working against you are your own family. I am not saying you need to cut these people out of your life completely, but simply limit the time and influence they have on your life.
Once you have looked at the previous steps you will have a pretty good idea as to where you are wanting to head and what you are wanting to achieve. You then need to find people who are on a similar path or have already traveled the path. These are the people that you need to spend more of your time with. When you are in the process of doing this be sure that you don’t full into the trap of explaining or justifying your actions. It is your dream, your goals, your life and no one will understand it like you do and you can’t expect them to. I hope these steps help you in achieving all that you desire for your life.
With International Womens Day recently, there was a lot of press about women and equality in the ranks, especially of the gender pay gap. ABS figures show that, in 2013, women working full-time earn, on average, 17.5 per cent less than men working full-time. It really got me thinking, are we simply playing the victim and living at the effect rather than the cause? Now I am sure some women will already be getting fired up about what I am suggesting, but let’s think about it for a bit.
I have a few points that you will either agree or disagree with, but everyone is entitled to an opinion.
We want equality and yet we have a special day to celebrate that we as Women work. I have never heard of International Men’s day.
Women in general in the corporate world get paid less, but aren’t we saying yes and agreeing by accepting that rate of pay. Why is a company going to pay you more if they don’t have to. If you are going to still stay for the lower rate than why would anything change.
Yes Women who want families are going to take time off, this isn’t a new concept. While we are the only ones who can actually have babies than this isn’t going to change. Maybe next time it is mentioned in the workplace you could ask your male counterpart if they would prefer to give birth, I can guarantee their answer would be no.
Plenty of women place the blame as to why they aren’t getting paid the same as their male counterparts. However, by placing the blame we are living at the effect rather than at cause. Wouldn’t you prefer to live at cause of your life and have the power to change it. By placing blame you are giving away you power to change the situation.
By continuously comparing ourselves to others, male or female, we are playing a losing game. We are all individuals with our own uniqueness about us. Rather than comparing we simple need to embrace who we are.
You need to be proactive, as Loral Langemeier says, “No one will INVITE YOU to play a bigger game in life or make money”.
Don’t allow FEAR to control your decisions in life. Many don’t get that pay rise because they won’t ask. I have always believed that if you don’t ask you don’t know. If you have the skills than learn to believe in yourself and simply ASK.
If we as Women want to be equal than we need to stop comparing, stop saying Yes and settling for second best. Women make up a significant part of the work force, this holds so much power that we need to recognise it and utilise it. At the end of the day we all have a choice, if you don’t like something than simply change it.