I had a bit of an aha moment this week and I wanted to take some time to share as I am sure I am not the only one that either has been or is in this situation. I guess this is one of the things I love about personal development, always being on a constant journey of discovery and better yet I get to share and help others.
We all have ideas as to how things should be, some people want to get married, have 2 kids and buy a house with the white picket fence. Some believe that life should just be a certain way and there is no budging. It is great to have a picture of what you want and where you want to go, but where we can fall down is being too attached as to how we are going to achieve that. We feel that some choices are like taking a step back and we attach negative connotations to it. When in fact sometimes we need to take a step back in order to propel us forward in life, a bit like a bow and arrow.
Let me paint a little picture for you so you know where I am going. When my husband and I first got together nearly 11 years ago it was always spoken about that I would stay home with the kids and he would “provide”. I always wanted to be a mum if nothing else and I saw this, at the time, as my ideal situation. A lot of things have occurred over the last couple of years that hasn’t made this choice very easy. A recent opportunity came up which would completely flip the roles that my husband and I play. At first there was resistance, a lot of resistance, but taking time this week to think and reflect has been quite eye opening. Perception plays a big role in the choices we make and it is something you have the power to control.
“Sometimes In Life You Need To Let Go Of What Is In Order To Make Room For What Could Be”
Sometimes in life we need to learn to let go of what is or our current ideas in order to make room for what could be. This can be a little uncomfortable for a lot of us, but all good things happen just on the other side of that discomfort. Taking the time to reflect has now allowed me to see the benefits of taking up this opportunity and now open to it either way.
When have you let go of something and received something even better?