Did you know that approx 70% of people quit their job as a result of their boss? Now that is not entirely what happened to me, but I wanted to take a moment to share with you a little about my story and how I ended up on the path of working from home.
So my journey actually began just over 2 years ago, I had just returned to work after having my daughter. She went to childcare 3 days a week, while I worked my job. It all seemed good in theory, but theories are just that and not always what happens in real life. My daughter got sick all the time and for the first 7 months I was having every second week off work. I felt like I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. My daughter was always going to be top of my priority list, but I had a job that had sales targets and expectations that I was expected to achieve whether I was there or not. I starting thinking to myself “there had to be more to life, there had to be a better way”. This sent me searching on what I had thought would be another job, as I had 0 ambition to have my own business as I bought into everything people had told me about business, well traditional business.
While searching for another job, the universe had other ideas and led me to a webpage offering a business opportunity. I was extremely reluctant to say the least, but thought I would just find out. I received a phone call, listened to what the person had to say on the phone and was sent through some more information. As soon as I got off the phone I instantly searched the internet to see if it was a scam. I went through the information and there was just something about it that was pulling me in, I was looking for more in my life and this is what it was offering. During this process the saying, “the definition of insanity-doing the same thing and expecting a different result” kept popping up. I knew if I wanted different results I had to make different decisions, so I got started.
Has it been easy? No, but nothing that is easy is every rewarding in life. Although working from home can have it’s own set of challenges, it is certainly a whole lot less than my job did. Now I get to have the flexibility I want, I get to take my daughter to dance lessons and both kids do swimming lessons and if one of the kids is sick I don’t have to explain myself to anyone. I really do love working from home and I have gone from being an unhappy stressed out Mum to being happy and setting an example for my kids I can be proud of.
If you or someone you know has been considering working from home I would love to be able to help. Go to www.liveanddreamtoday.com for more information
How many times have you said you are going to change something or do something, but not follow through. You might do it for a little while, but then resort back to your old habits. If you fall into this category then I can totally relate. It is frustrating, tiring and does nothing for your confidence levels. You kind of feel like why bother and I have been there plenty of times myself. I am here to help you overcome this issue and finally achieve your goals. Let me run through the 7 steps that I use which is helping me achieve my goals.
MINDSET – I can not stress how important this is. If you don’t have this than it is not worth even starting because it will sabotage you quicker than you can say your name. How do we change it? Well personal development is a great tool and one that I use on a daily basis. Your first step before you start anything else is Mindset Mindset Mindset.
MEDITATION/VISUALISATION – Now I know this may seem a little hippy to some, but I have found that this is one thing that really has been the change lately and noticed the effect it has. You don’t have to meditate for hours, in fact I have a guided meditation that I do in the morning that goes for 11 minutes. During this time visualise what it is you are wanting to achieve and how it feels. When I have finished it makes me feel calm, balanced and ready to take on the world
COMMUNITY – You are always going to be more successful when you surround yourself with the right people. You want positive people who are moving in a similar direction that you want to head. If you are overweight and unhealthy then you need to go and hang out with healthy people. This may mean that you may have to limit the time or cut it out altogether with the people you currently hang around with. I know it can be hard to do this and we allow guilt to dictate our decisions. There is a saying “sometimes you have to let go of the old so you can make room for the new”. That is life and if you truly want to achieve your goal then you need to overcome your fear and guilt.
POSTURE – Act as if you are already living the life that you want and have a bit of fun with it. LIFE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE BORING!! So often we do things the wrong way around and you might catch yourself saying I will be confident when I am thin. This is the attitude of Have Do Be. What you need to do is change it around to a Be Do Have posture. So be confident, take the action towards your goal and then you will be thin. If you think it sounds simple it’s because it is, doesn’t mean it won’t require work. We as humans like to complicate things.
COUNT YOUR WINS – We spend so much time focusing on the negative, what we didn’t do, what we did do, what we haven’t achieved. That is not motivating for anyone, in fact it is making me feel unmotivated just writing it. Count your wins, focus on the positive, each night write down 10 things that you achieved, even if it is “I didn’t hit the snooze button on my alarm this morning”. That is a win and you should celebrate it. Also be sure to set yourself little milestones and reward yourself for reaching them.
GRATITUDE – This one is probably just as important as the first and one that probably isn’t practiced enough. Be grateful for things, anything, everything. By being grateful not only are you putting positive energy out into the universe, but it allows you to place a focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have.
SOLUTIONS NOT EXCUSES – Have you found yourself coming up with every excuse under the sun for not doing something and then bitching later because you didn’t do it, surely I can’t be the only one. When you hear yourself coming up with an excuse, turn it around and ask yourself, “what is the solution”. STOP BUYING YOUR EXCUSES!!!!
I really hope these steps help you when setting your next goal. I do apologise about the length, it was only supposed to be about 4 steps, but I guess I got a little carried away.
I would love to hear your thoughts and what your goals are.
Did you know that only about 8% of people follow through with their new years resolution and there are many reasons why. I have never been one to set a new years resolution, but I did take some time to sit down and work out what I wanted for the new year and picked just a couple of things to focus on. Now if you are great at achieving your goals then that is awesome. However, if you set new years resolutions each year and never follow through, then what I am about to share might help you change that. This doesn’t just apply to new years resolutions, but goals in general, because if you don’t follow through in the new year then fair chance is that you set a lot of goals that you never achieve. I want to help you change this pattern and to achieve more in your life.
So I like I mentioned I decided to just pick a couple of things to focus on and here are the reasons why.
If you pick 1 or 2 things to focus on then you are going to have more chance at achieving them. We can have a tendency to spread ourselves too thin and lose focus on what we were trying to achieve.
Picking a couple of things doesn’t mean that is all I want to achieve, but the 2 things I did pick I know by mastering them they will cause a flow on effect to other parts of my life. This will make it easier to achieve my other goals and some of them will even happen effortlessly.
One other thing we need to look at before setting these goals is our mindset and this probably makes up about 90% of the process along with WHY we are wanting to achieve them. So let me share with you my 2 goals and the process I went through.
My first goal that I chose was to partake in a 10 week paleo challenge. Now like many of you I have done all sorts of fitness regimes, said I am going to eat healthier and well, none of them ever lasted very long. I have slowly started introducing some small changes along the way, but not anything that has produced significant results. I know that by improving my overall health I am going to to have more energy and with 2 kids and a business I could use all the help I can get. However, this time is different….it feels different and I feel different about it. It is really important that you do things that resonate with you and for me this option does, it makes sense to me and something I can do long term. I feel that is a really important point to take onboard, if it resonates with you there is more of a willingness to follow through. The other thing that has changed and this is where the mindset comes, instead of focusing on what I am cutting out of my diet (essentailly what I am missing out on) I am focusing on the excitement and creative challenges I get to encounter. It is interesting how when you start looking into things that they turn out not to be so hard or scary after all. It is about finding the fun and excitement and focusing on that instead of what you think you are missing out on.
Learn to find the FUN in life
My second goal is to be more consistent and organised and although it is 2 things they go hand in hand. Now as I mentioned I have 2 kids and a business and it can be a challenge juggling the 2 things as well as all the other Mum duties eg. cleaning 😦 . I find the best way to do this is to put a couple of things in place:
Have a schedule and to-do list, and I know with kids it is not always going to work to plan, but it makes it a lot easier to remember everything you have to do instead of climbing into bed at the end of the day and thinking CRAP!! I forgot…..
Start small and implement 1 or 2 things that you do consistently everyday. For me I have just started doing meditating, but I only do it for 10 minutes. It is really super important to make sure you take time-out for yourself. ESPECIALLY if you have kids, and I know we all say “when am I supposed to find the time”. I promise you that if you find just that 10 minutes every single day it will make a difference in every area of your life.
Stop buying your own excuses. We really can be our own worst enemy and we allow our excuses to essentially enable our bad behaviour and then complain about it later. Whenever you hear yourself making some kind of excuse, stop yourself and think for 10 seconds. Ask yourself, is this a valid reason, is there a way I can actually do this, is this just a really bad excuse.
Language is so so important and something that we probably don’t pay enough attention to. Eliminate the phrases “have to” and “need to” and replace them with “choose to” or “want to”. This may seem like an insignificant thing, but take a moment to think……when you have used “have to” or “need to”, how often di you actually done those things. As people we don’t like to be told we “have to” do things and it could quite possible stem back from childhood when I parents told us we “have to” do something. If you change your wording even slightly you will notice a difference, maybe not straight away but you will.
I am sure this has given you plenty to think about and I truly hope this helps you achieve more of your goals in life.
What is one thing that you would like to achieve this year?
In business, personal connections are everything. People prefer to do business with those who are recommended by people they know. In a recent Nielsen report a staggering 77% of consumers are more likely to buy a new product when learning about it from friends and family and 92% of people trust recommendations from friends and family more than all other forms of marketing.
As trust in advertising declines, word of mouth marketing via social networks has become the most effective means of building a loyal base of brand ambassadors. That means…more engagement and more revenue for your brand.
The ability to network, and network well, is one of the biggest factors in business and personal success. Peta Di Palma, who founded Tribe Side Networking offers her top 5 tips on making sure networking events give you a good return on the time invested:
PLAN AHEAD: Before you attend a networking event, think about the true reason you’re there. The overall point of a business-networking event is to establish and develop business connections. Target your connections and set a goal to identify who you need to know and who needs to know you. Who are the decision makers and key influencers? Where can I meet them? How do I get into their circles? What is it I want from this networking event?
MINDSET: It only takes a moment’s conscious decision to become a networker. All it requires is a slight shift in attitude, and adopting one simple trifurcated rule:
Great each new acquaintance with an openness to learn more about that person.
Have a willingness to help, and
Offer to stay in touch
Your ultimate goal of networking should be to help other people. Networking is a two way street and your side of the street is all about helping others, not asking them to help you! When you approach others with a willingness to learn more about the person and add some value to them, the favour is returned in spades.
PREPARE QUESTIONS: Have a few targeted, engaging questions prepared ahead of time and stay informed with current events. Before the event have some “back pocket” or “handbag” conversation topics handy. Pick 3-5 items to use as emergency re-starter in case the conversation starts to drag. You need to move past the “where are you from?” and “So, what brings you here today?” quickly. Some of the questions you can ask to keep conversations going are:
Just out of curiosity, Why do you attend networking events? When you start a conversation with “Just out of curiosity” most people will move towards you.
What do you like best about what you do? This is two questions in one – this also asks the question, “So what do you do?” This question, unlike the same old, What do you do, gets people in conversation mode rather than just giving you a short answer.
When did you get started in that direction? This gives your new contact a chance to tell a story and people love telling stories about themselves.
Who can I help you meet? Now that you have made a connection, this is the time to show you care. People don’t care what you know until they know that you care. Listen for the types of people they want to meet that you can introduce them to later or at the same event.
ALLOW TIME: Unless it’s a speed-networking event, don’t hop from one conversation to another in a matter of minutes. The first five minutes of a conversation at a networking event usually involve introductions and polite chitchat. When you take the time to truly connect with someone, you begin to form the foundation of a professional relationship. The strength and longevity of your business relationships will depend more on the quality of your connections than the quantity. When you find the right connections, stay and chat for a while. You might find your effortsmore effective if you choose to speak to a handful of individuals than 20 If they are not the right connections, observe the five-minute rule and move on politely!
LISTEN: Not only is effective listening one of the most important things you can learn to do, it is also one of the most important elements of networking. Be present and take it in.
I want to give a big thanks to Peta for providing some great tips. I will certainly be using them at my next event, how about you?
So often we go about life so focused on the destination that we miss the journey. Imagine you are driving along the Great Ocean Road heading to Melbourne. It is night time and all you can see is 20 meters of the road in front of you. You drive through the night and you arrive at your destination, but anyone who has heard or been along the Great Ocean Road knows how beautiful it is and how much there is to see. Well this is how we look at life, so focused on the finish line that we miss so much of what was on the way. Learning to reflect not only helps to keep you focused, stay positive, learn and get to your destination quicker, but it allows you to take a moment to appreciate the journey.
How much time do you spend reflecting? Journaling is a great way to reflect, but it is important to be honest with yourself, without beating yourself up of course. We talk about people who lie to us, but what you can forget is sometimes the biggest lie might be the one you tell yourself. Certainly it is not something you do on purpose, but more something you have been conditioned to do. You get taught to follow the rules, to obey and sometimes in doing so you learn to tune out to your inner-self, your intuition. Use journaling as a way to ask yourself questions about what is true and what is not, to seek guidance and gain clarity.
Once you have been through the journaling process I like to finish my day counting my wins. We have become a society that spends it’s time focusing on the negative and what we didn’t get done and yes this may be a big list some days. This in turn sends out negative vibrations which will inevitably derail your progress. Be kind to yourself and reward yourself by looking at what you DID do as you will find it much more productive. You can start small and it might be something as simple as getting out of bed on time, getting that load of washing done. I try to list at least 10 wins for the day which helps to end my day on a really positive note. The more often you do this the easier it becomes and the more positive things you will see from your day. Your day will always be filled with good and bad, positive and negative, pain and pleasure, but it is where you choose to place your focus that makes all the difference.
Make a conscious decision today to place more of your focus on the journey. Feel free to share your wins in the comments section below. It is much more fun when you can share your wins with others.