Did you know that on average there is a plane taking off at Heathrow airport every 45 seconds? Why am I talking about planes, well it is the perfect example of building momentum. You aren’t going to turn on an airplane and expect it to instantly fly, you have to build up speed and then once you are up it gets much easier. That is kind of how business works, it is always tough at the start and you have to put much more work in, but then as you start building momentum it will get easier.
How do we build momentum? With consistency, this is the biggest key to building up that momentum. In the beginning it can seem a little overwhelming so I always start with small steps. Start with a couple of small things that you commit to each and every single day until it becomes a habit. They say it takes about 21 days to create a new habit, so once you have accomplished the first couple, then pick 2 or 3 more and commit to doing them each and every single day until they become habit.
What can derail your momentum? There are a number of things that can derail the consistency and therefore derail the momentum. Planning or lack of is one thing that can cause you to become unstuck. They say “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail”. Get into the habit of having a schedule and be disciplined to stick with it. Allocate certain amounts of time for each task and you will find yourself doing less paper shuffling. Learn to value your time; If you don’t value your time than others won’t either and you will probably find your time being taken up doing things for everyone else all the time. Don’t get disheartened; it can be easy to feel like a failure and like you are getting nowhere. You can change this by learning to count your wins everyday no matter how big or small. This will help you keep focused on the positive and not dragged under by the negative.
In summary, in order to help you create success you need to build momentum and this isn’t just for business, but can be applied to other areas of your life.
What is it going to take to get your plane off the runway?
How many times have you said you are going to change something or do something, but not follow through. You might do it for a little while, but then resort back to your old habits. If you fall into this category then I can totally relate. It is frustrating, tiring and does nothing for your confidence levels. You kind of feel like why bother and I have been there plenty of times myself. I am here to help you overcome this issue and finally achieve your goals. Let me run through the 7 steps that I use which is helping me achieve my goals.
MINDSET – I can not stress how important this is. If you don’t have this than it is not worth even starting because it will sabotage you quicker than you can say your name. How do we change it? Well personal development is a great tool and one that I use on a daily basis. Your first step before you start anything else is Mindset Mindset Mindset.
MEDITATION/VISUALISATION – Now I know this may seem a little hippy to some, but I have found that this is one thing that really has been the change lately and noticed the effect it has. You don’t have to meditate for hours, in fact I have a guided meditation that I do in the morning that goes for 11 minutes. During this time visualise what it is you are wanting to achieve and how it feels. When I have finished it makes me feel calm, balanced and ready to take on the world
COMMUNITY – You are always going to be more successful when you surround yourself with the right people. You want positive people who are moving in a similar direction that you want to head. If you are overweight and unhealthy then you need to go and hang out with healthy people. This may mean that you may have to limit the time or cut it out altogether with the people you currently hang around with. I know it can be hard to do this and we allow guilt to dictate our decisions. There is a saying “sometimes you have to let go of the old so you can make room for the new”. That is life and if you truly want to achieve your goal then you need to overcome your fear and guilt.
POSTURE – Act as if you are already living the life that you want and have a bit of fun with it. LIFE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE BORING!! So often we do things the wrong way around and you might catch yourself saying I will be confident when I am thin. This is the attitude of Have Do Be. What you need to do is change it around to a Be Do Have posture. So be confident, take the action towards your goal and then you will be thin. If you think it sounds simple it’s because it is, doesn’t mean it won’t require work. We as humans like to complicate things.
COUNT YOUR WINS – We spend so much time focusing on the negative, what we didn’t do, what we did do, what we haven’t achieved. That is not motivating for anyone, in fact it is making me feel unmotivated just writing it. Count your wins, focus on the positive, each night write down 10 things that you achieved, even if it is “I didn’t hit the snooze button on my alarm this morning”. That is a win and you should celebrate it. Also be sure to set yourself little milestones and reward yourself for reaching them.
GRATITUDE – This one is probably just as important as the first and one that probably isn’t practiced enough. Be grateful for things, anything, everything. By being grateful not only are you putting positive energy out into the universe, but it allows you to place a focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have.
SOLUTIONS NOT EXCUSES – Have you found yourself coming up with every excuse under the sun for not doing something and then bitching later because you didn’t do it, surely I can’t be the only one. When you hear yourself coming up with an excuse, turn it around and ask yourself, “what is the solution”. STOP BUYING YOUR EXCUSES!!!!
I really hope these steps help you when setting your next goal. I do apologise about the length, it was only supposed to be about 4 steps, but I guess I got a little carried away.
I would love to hear your thoughts and what your goals are.
In business, personal connections are everything. People prefer to do business with those who are recommended by people they know. In a recent Nielsen report a staggering 77% of consumers are more likely to buy a new product when learning about it from friends and family and 92% of people trust recommendations from friends and family more than all other forms of marketing.
As trust in advertising declines, word of mouth marketing via social networks has become the most effective means of building a loyal base of brand ambassadors. That means…more engagement and more revenue for your brand.
The ability to network, and network well, is one of the biggest factors in business and personal success. Peta Di Palma, who founded Tribe Side Networking offers her top 5 tips on making sure networking events give you a good return on the time invested:
PLAN AHEAD: Before you attend a networking event, think about the true reason you’re there. The overall point of a business-networking event is to establish and develop business connections. Target your connections and set a goal to identify who you need to know and who needs to know you. Who are the decision makers and key influencers? Where can I meet them? How do I get into their circles? What is it I want from this networking event?
MINDSET: It only takes a moment’s conscious decision to become a networker. All it requires is a slight shift in attitude, and adopting one simple trifurcated rule:
Great each new acquaintance with an openness to learn more about that person.
Have a willingness to help, and
Offer to stay in touch
Your ultimate goal of networking should be to help other people. Networking is a two way street and your side of the street is all about helping others, not asking them to help you! When you approach others with a willingness to learn more about the person and add some value to them, the favour is returned in spades.
PREPARE QUESTIONS: Have a few targeted, engaging questions prepared ahead of time and stay informed with current events. Before the event have some “back pocket” or “handbag” conversation topics handy. Pick 3-5 items to use as emergency re-starter in case the conversation starts to drag. You need to move past the “where are you from?” and “So, what brings you here today?” quickly. Some of the questions you can ask to keep conversations going are:
Just out of curiosity, Why do you attend networking events? When you start a conversation with “Just out of curiosity” most people will move towards you.
What do you like best about what you do? This is two questions in one – this also asks the question, “So what do you do?” This question, unlike the same old, What do you do, gets people in conversation mode rather than just giving you a short answer.
When did you get started in that direction? This gives your new contact a chance to tell a story and people love telling stories about themselves.
Who can I help you meet? Now that you have made a connection, this is the time to show you care. People don’t care what you know until they know that you care. Listen for the types of people they want to meet that you can introduce them to later or at the same event.
ALLOW TIME: Unless it’s a speed-networking event, don’t hop from one conversation to another in a matter of minutes. The first five minutes of a conversation at a networking event usually involve introductions and polite chitchat. When you take the time to truly connect with someone, you begin to form the foundation of a professional relationship. The strength and longevity of your business relationships will depend more on the quality of your connections than the quantity. When you find the right connections, stay and chat for a while. You might find your effortsmore effective if you choose to speak to a handful of individuals than 20 If they are not the right connections, observe the five-minute rule and move on politely!
LISTEN: Not only is effective listening one of the most important things you can learn to do, it is also one of the most important elements of networking. Be present and take it in.
I want to give a big thanks to Peta for providing some great tips. I will certainly be using them at my next event, how about you?
Most people don’t achieve what they want because they don’t place any value on their time. Time is one commodity you can’t get more of. You can always make more money, buy more stuff, but once you have used your time you are not going to get it back. It is therefore up to you to value your time and allocate it to people and things that are worth your time. If you do not understand or know the value of your time than you can’t expect anyone else to. You are more than likely going to end up surrounding yourself with people who don’t value your time.
When deciding how you are going to use your time there are a couple of things you should ask yourself.
Is what I am about to do productive and moving me in the direction I want?
Is there something else I could be doing that would be more beneficial?
Do the people around me value my time?
Am I making the most of the time I have or simply paper shuffling?
Am I getting any enjoyment out of what I am doing? (It is important to have fun in life)
Could I organise my day different to make my time worth more?
So there you have it, a few questions to ask yourself tomorrow, next week or next month when you are making the choice as to how your time is being utilised. While going through this please don’t fall into the trap of “I don’t have a choice”. There is always a choice, we may not like having to make it and we may be unsure of the consequences, but there is always a choice.
What do you do to ensure you are valuing your time?
So far in the 7 steps to achieving success we have looked at goal setting, meditation, beliefs, stoppers, reflection, and language. The final step in this is probably one of the most crucial and can be the final stumbling block for people and that is community, the people you surround yourself with.
I am sure you have heard saying like “you are a product of your surroundings”, “you become what you hang around with” and ” you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. In order to create the success you desire you need to ensure you are surrounding yourself with the people who are going to enable you, not disable you. This can be tough because some of the people who end up working against you are your own family. I am not saying you need to cut these people out of your life completely, but simply limit the time and influence they have on your life.
Once you have looked at the previous steps you will have a pretty good idea as to where you are wanting to head and what you are wanting to achieve. You then need to find people who are on a similar path or have already traveled the path. These are the people that you need to spend more of your time with. When you are in the process of doing this be sure that you don’t full into the trap of explaining or justifying your actions. It is your dream, your goals, your life and no one will understand it like you do and you can’t expect them to. I hope these steps help you in achieving all that you desire for your life.
How much attention do you pay on the words you use on a daily basis and the story you are telling yourself? Did you know that something as simple as a word you are using can make all the difference? If you have been following and implementing the previous 5 steps I have discussed than it will all start making sense and hopefully you will be noticing some new results.
Let’s look at the story you are telling yourself and you may be wondering what the hell I am on about? Let me explain…..and the best way I can do this is to give you an example. At high school I was never a good long distance runner, in fact I did an 8oo meter race once and felt like I was dying at the end. Therefore I have always said that I am not a long distance runner, this was the story I was telling myself. Any way not long after recently having my son I wanted to do a 5km run. Yep, big difference between 8oo meters and 5km so how was I going to achieve this if I am not a long distance runner. I had to change my story. I had to create a story that was going to help me in achieving my goal. I started telling myself that I am powerful, full of energy and love running long distance and for some you may think this is a little silly, but trust me it really works. A little bit of training and lots of work on my mind and I did that 5km run only 10 weeks after having my son.
Now let’s take a look at the language we use, and nothing makes you realise what you say as much as your 3 year old repeating and using the same language. I don’t know about you, but until I started paying more attention I didn’t realise how much language was sabotaging my success. Do you use words like try and can’t which our mind automatically associates with failure. Maybe you use words like stressed or frustrated which will make you just more stressed and frustrated. Try changing just a few of your words to attempt, can or challenged which your brain will associate with more positive outcomes.
I would love to hear from anyone who has used any of the tips I have provided so far and to let me know how you have been going and what results you have noticed. Happy growing!!
Have you ever heard of mind movies. They are great tool to help train your brain in order to create the things you want in life. This is one that I have just recently created with my goals for the next few months. Make sure if you are making a mind movie that you use phrases starting with “I am” and “I have” as this will place your mind in a state of already being. I just used http://www.animoto.com as you can make free 30 second movies, but there are plenty of programs and sites out there. Have some fun with it and see what you can create.